Season’s End

Track season is officially over. For middle schoolers in my district at least. What that means differs from one family to another, I’m sure. For us, it means a bit less chaos in our afternoon schedule and a bit less laundry. And, it turns out, a lot more is ending as well.

Oldest has never been the sporty-old-spice kind of guy. When we signed him up for T-Ball back when he was 4, I’m not sure who was more pained by the whole thing: him or us. We were the ones writing the park & rec check and chauffeuring him about the metro area, but he was the one out pulling the clover and digging in the grass with sticks. We had shrugged our parenting shoulders and bought into the whole “let them try stuff and see what they like” gig and he’d gone along with it to an extent. He was quite pleased with the team name (the Yellow Spiders) because it was, in his words, the “only original suggestion in the bunch, Mom.”

So you can imagine my surprise the Friday before Spring Break when Oldest came home from school and paused long enough on his way to play MindCraft with his friends to say, “Uh Mom, I need to get a physical and stuff. For track.”

It turns out Oldest is just as susceptible to peer pressure as all the other kids. Or in this case, coach pressure.

If you are an adult working with kids and you wonder if you actually are making a difference in their lives, hear this: my 12 year old son, who thinks a good time is pondering string theory, playing video games, and reading novels, went out for track because he adores his math teacher who just happens to be the track head coach. I’m sure the fact that Mister Soandso is a marathoner played at least a bit part in Oldest’s decision making process. But the lion’s share of that decision rests purely on the shoulders of his coach.

In case you are wondering, I was unprepared for Oldest to go out for track. But a physical was procured and running shoes purchased along with shorts and tee-shirts and suddenly I was the mother of a middle school athlete. For me, that mostly meant washing uniforms and packing extra granola bars, picking him up after practice and driving to track meets. But it was also something more.

I got to watch my son flourish.

My son is not the athlete who broke any school records or a single race tape. In his words, he is “terrible but having fun!” But every time he ran towards that finish line, usually the last runner on the straight-away, he gave it his all. And his team mates cheered and strangers clapped for him. Not because he was last, but because even though he was last, he gave each race his best.

I won’t miss driving his forgotten uniform to the school or sitting in the rain. But I will really miss seeing Oldest run that mile, way behind the other boys but crossing the finish line anyway.

The nice thing is that although this track season has come to an end, I know it isn’t over really.

Part way through the meet yesterday Oldest came and sat by me. I figured that once he’d gotten a snack he’d go back and sit with his friends. But instead he sat there and cheered on his teammates and told me who was a nice boy and who he knew and didn’t know. And then, as we cheered on the seventh grade boys 800 meter relay team, Oldest leaned over to me and said with a twinkle in his eye, “I think I’m going to run track all the way through until I graduate from high school. It’s just so much fun!”

Sounds like the season’s end won’t be coming any time soon. Instead, what really has ended is Oldest’s previously thought of who he was and what he could do.

ps. On behalf of all the parents and grown-ups out there that love kids, thank you teachers and coaches for making kids’ lives better. By giving of yourself, you’ve made their dreams bigger.


8 thoughts on “Season’s End

  1. Love it. You probably felt as shocked as mom and dad did when I said I wanted to play basketball. Though you and Mr Soandso didn’t make as many “oh, you’re just gonna drop out” comments.

  2. Love this!! I ran XC and now my kids are running races with my husband and I. And coaches are fabulous!

  3. This takes me back to when my oldest, now 30, did girl’s basketball in middle school(remember when it was called junior high?).

    In her case she was pretty much drafted because she was tall and her very small Lutheran school didn’t have many tall girls. At first she hated it. Begged me to let her quit. I didn’t. Eventually she went on to play Forward and Center and made some friendships that lasted decades. Mostly she learned perseverance and a certain degree of self confidence (Oh, and the joy of hip-checking another girl across the court)

    String theory, Huh? I love that stuff, too bad I can’t do the math. Also love that wacky Holographic “other” reality projected on or off of the walls of the black hole at the center of the galaxy theory…Oldest might like this – (on the holographic theory)

    Thanks for this, Kristina (and thanks, teachers)

  4. Love that your boy is having fun and passionate about something so healthy! My “terrible but having fun” hobby was dance growing up. My mother sewed and drove and helped rehearsals. My dad mostly couldn’t figure out why his 6-foot daughter wasn’t playing basketball!

  5. And of course you are one of those adults Kristina! I appreciate all you do for our kids at church.

  6. My jr hi coach was a very formative influence in my life also. I went out for football in the 8th grade. At under 90 # and with no talent, all I had going for me was determination. He took that determination and found a place for it on the team. Very important for my self esteem and peer relations.

  7. I’ve been away from reading blogs because of work but I’m back now and catching up – yours are at the top of my list! Congratulations to your oldest for trying something new and finding it fun! And congratulations to you for providing him the safety net upon which to do it!

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